i feel guilty for kissing another guy

Don't hurt him any more than you already have. I cant trust you anymore., You think that having too much to drink made it all right for you to kiss ______? Everyone is telling me not to say anything because it was so long ago and it never happened again, or will it ever. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. I said no but he assured me nothing would happen and we would just lie and cuddle.In a drunken moment I agreed and he assured me nothing would happen. I'm sure you'll survive if you don't tell him and I'm certain that he doesn't need to know. I get the whole 'not wanting to hurt him' thing but, to some people at least, a kiss is very much cheating and so the SO deserves to know what happened right? A guy bought me drinks and he asked me if I wanted to ride his motorcycle to another bar and I did. LOL I totally regret my actions and cannot bear to tell my boyfriend. SOULMATE: I accept the ASSuming Award. I feel so bad since then. Thinking of it over and over again will affect you mentally, and make it worse. You want me to go on a comma and replace her. Need help with your relationship? So it looks as if we're suddenly at crossed-purposes, then. To tell versus Not to tell (and everything that has a bearing). My eyes were closed and my head was spinning. We finally mended fences, but there still is a type of tension between us. Sadly, many people who have a crush on someone else purposely get drunk or get the other person drunk in order to find out if they have any chemistry with each other, and they temporarily forget about the fact that they are already in a relationship with another person. If the reaction is strong, then maybe dont say anything. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! Is kissing someone else when drunk cheating? Unless you literally were so drunk that you had no idea what you were doing, it's probably better for you to take responsibility for and own your behavior instead of saying "I got drunk" as an excuse. Alcohol does not change that fact. You reap what you sow. (No, I'm very passionate about fidelity.) Don't feel guilty because you are a mom (or dad) and you feel like you need to be spending time with them. I speak from experience when I say that when that intimacy starts to die, it can be the start of the end. Thankfully, he immediately and apologetically backed right off (which was when we woke this other woman and they both left), and, luckily, put his apologetic money where his mouth was by phoning me the very next day to say how stupid and guilt-wracked he felt, assuring me it would NEVER happen again so could I please forgive him and just forget it ever happened. Loyal Girl sorry to hear about your situation. Look at your first kiss after divorce as a new beginning, a new chapter. Login first I say tell him. Wow, you really do want a baby, don't you. I put a blanket over her and sat back down next to the man. I've been cheated on just recently and I cannot imagine how awful it would be if he didn't own up and tell me. Damn, my husband is such a good person and we were together for almost 7 years now. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. There's a difference between sex and kissing. Its more like an excuse for cheating. It's not worth the headaches, nausea, acid reflux, stomach pain, or insomnia you may be experiencing. stop any contact (outside of work) immediately. My SO and I had been dating two years. Shocking Signs Your Husband Kissed Another Woman The doubt in your mind over his behaviour might actually be a doubt in your mind over yours. ;-D. Ahhhh you're back! 3. [2] ..you showed you don't think of he and you as a team by sharing all information pertinent to the relationship; male I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me, I can see you feel very passionate about infidelity, however, on this occassion I won't be taking your advice. I want to break down and cry. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding. Confesing to your husband was risky. I like the soft smooth touch of a woman and her sexy smell while iam kissing her with passion, if there is a romantic connection it's even better. I had a kind of aha reaction because I realized I was attracted to him. 4 days ago. I always prefer to know if something is going on than find out about it later, or worse, never find out at all (the idea of this chills me). (SK, that award doesn't exist. Ill bet you got drunk on purpose because you wanted to kiss him/her.. I wanted to go further with him, but I didnt nor did he push for anything more. Generally people dont care when it happens with others but when it happens with them, they may react very differently because human are emotional creatures. Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here), but then I was cheated on for years by ExH and I would now put myself first. Needing to hear this guy tell you it was OK- It was not OK. We all should know by now that alcohol affects our judgment and that it can make us less inhibited and cause us to behave in ways in which we never would behave while sober. He said I was a person and offered to ride me home. Just, why leave yourself open if you don't have to. Thank you. Yes Im addiction there are things called SUDs.. He kissed another woman | Talk About Marriage I couldnt take it so I told him. Kissed another man four years ago and NOW feeling guilty. But maybe I should have My thoughts are that he has been persuing her. Though somehow I think there might have been trouble in the marriage. Well, time for some fun questions: would you be telling him about it just to alleviate your own guilt? I dont drink, but had i been drinking i would have chosen home is the best place to be vulnerable lol! The way I see things, there are innocent kisses, which occur when a person had too much to drink, and then there are guilty kisses, which are precipitated by getting drunk. Anyway, I just thought I'd mention it out of respect for that other time with that girl and to show you that, despite I'm not as quick thinking as you, especially when I'm blotto, I can still handle myself in these situations [grin]." Hey all. Oh yes he has cried a help of a lot. I told him straight away what had happened. Why do I feel guilty after a make out session? - Quora I wonder how that struggle with trust might affect bonding within a romantic relationship contex- oh, wait - could it, would it, on a train in the rain with a fox in a box, Sam-I-Am, possibly always communicate to your husband a sense that you don't fully enough trust *him*, in which case that must mean you're judging him by YOUR standards ergo he'd better hold back a bit just in case? My piano teacher didnt behave like his normal, reserved self and he made suggestive comments to me. I know he would forgive me but I don't want to deal with issue with him. Lee.. you are too funny. Which probably makes you wonder why I came here in the first place. The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. Hello, TheBestAdvice: Im glad you thought my post was intelligent and that you could relate to it. On which note - "Marriage is about trust not tryst": I like that saying. Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. When my husband came home, he could tell right away that I had been drinking. Guilt occurs primarily in interpersonal contexts and is considered a "pro-social" emotion because it helps you maintain good relations with others. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. female Other way around. Yes, that's what I was going to advise - that you two continue any discussion on LG's own thread. What would people say if she'd slept with someone else? Can you tthan please explain this? It's wonderful that you even wanted to kiss someone! Once emotions kicks in, you cant predict what will happen. If you were to act like the person you want or see yourself to be, what would you do? I know it was wrong and I regret it all. New Mexico sunsets flat lands breathtaking. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. As long as you are sincere about making this work, your punishment should be to bear this guilt. Please leave me a comment. I really need your help.I have been dating this boy for the past two months. Slaying suspect pleads guilty | News, Sports, Jobs - Altoona Mirror So this was the whole tone in which I recounted it to hubby, ergo, he thought it was amusing (the event and my comeback), flattering to him *and* reassuring. I felt a mixture of excitement and flattery and nerves. It's one of those cases where keeping it a secret would be worse than the transgression itself, especially since it'd be a case of 'the pot calling the kettle black'. I felt disorientated. I kissed another guy while drunk. You were drunk and you kissed - One of those long young people type kisses too . Any help or advise would be much appreciated. It was a real dress up affair, and the drink flowed freely all night long. Maybe she was experimenting or it was something shed thought about and wanted to see what it felt like. You wanna tell your husband? I'll see you over there. But we can get through it together if you are truley remoreseful. I said to my husband, I have something to tell you, but I dont know how to say it.. Okay. If it were me, I would contact her, & let her know that I didn't appreciate her actions. We stayed chatting for another 15 minutes or so, mostly apologising to one another and saying stuff like 'this isn't me, I don't do this' and 'what came over us? But you can control whether you nurture the crush or acknowledge it and move on. With the other woman just across the room! My husband went ballistic and said, I just knew something like this was going to happen. Plus, I *was* moreover affronted, meaning the guy got off lightly, because [1] I hadn't even caught his eye, [2] my wedding band is very thick thus too noticeable even from a distance, meaning his chat-up attempt was both un-instigated and unwanted, so [3] what sort of person did he think I WAS, just from looking at me?! He is the best person I have ever met. response. 8=) ) I'd never be able to get over it. Houston, despite we started out as just friends, we now have PROOF that we have utilised a mechanism for cultivating love and respect, enough to now remain together til death do us part. Wouldn't you? female :p That's a lot to take in. For starters, your husband, even when supposedly immature, didn't kiss HER. The Fora platform includes forum software by XenForo. :), Ah cawlled *you* 'sistah', dun't mean Ah iz wurn too, 'kayyy, shugah? Even though it took her a while to make that choice, she both never recognized her role and then made a series of bad choices after. My eyes were closed and my head was spinning. I'm so confused. But fine, then 'It's not what you do, it's the way that you do it': give him the truth *cleverly*. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. He went on to tell me that he kissed another woman and he had to tell me, he couldn't keep it a secret from me. It is the gateway to another feeling. Don't have an account? It meant absolutely nothing what so ever but to me, I still class kissing someone else, no matter how long or short time, drunk or not, as cheating! Later, I spoke to my fianc and he told me he loved me and was sorry. get into counselling. When you go out and get drunk- if you find yourself attracted to another man- think back to how you feel now after you acted on that attraction. Saying that, however, I note you wrote: Try to let it go and forgive yourself. With or without the same seniority. You might come to the conclusion that something is lacking in your primary relationship, and you might decide to break up with your partner and pursue the person whom you kissed while drunk. It how you deal with it that makes the difference. When he finally called me up, he said that he needed to stay away from me, much as he enjoyed teaching me music, he felt that the next time we met, things could get even worse and he didnt want to destroy my marriage. (Y)), Hey its really grtt to hear tht u really care n lot of emotion for ur hubbyv only come to kno abt our loyalty only when things like this happens.u kissed him thn u realised that u hv done mistake bcoz u really love ur hubby n dnt want to cheat him.but since commuting mistakes is a part of human nature n being human it happened but determined urself for not to continue or commit such mistake is the real proof of being loyal. Still, now that the courts are coming down wider and heavier on emotional abuse, I'm sure it's just a matter of time. I had three I practise what I preach, me. Mr S lived there once (San Fransisco), but he hasn't any urge to return, either. Me, I can't believe committing adultery isn't an actual crime yet. I wouldn't want to hear about it if I were in his position. She may say that. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! I feel horrible. This is what I'd do because my relationship with my husband is stellar and we both want to keep it that way, and it's such precisely BECAUSE we're this 24/7 honest and transparent with each other (Speak-Your-Thoughts machines). Try-it-on, cheating sleazebag makes pass at loyally-married woman; LGBTYouTube stars Bria Kam and Chrissy Chambers (BriaAndChrissy) have released a videoexploring what its like for straight guys to kiss other men for the first time. Because you feel guilt and awful, that is already a potential secret wall that will build up between you and the one person in the world with whom you want to be a true closest friend. After all she did say that the kiss lasted for maybe 5 minutes. I went to a party with friends last night and I kissed someone.. reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): A Why would you want to do that? I'm married, but kissed another man - PeoplesProblems.org 2023 FemaleFirst Ltd. all rights reserved. Scopes: okay, although the whole point of forums is [1] that they're anonymous and [2] people's problems aren't ever remotely unique enough for the poster not to potentially be literally from anywhere in the world thus unidentifiable. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months and I feel so guilty. I love your stories, Foxie. One day, he came over with a bottle of whisky and he had already been drinking. I Was Raised By A 90 Years Old Ninja - Facebook He is a good person and a good husband and I love him very much. :-( Feel free to start a thread if you need to vent it all out.). I think a real man actually kisses a dude at least once to really know your sexuality, one says. I kissed another girl while black out drunk, dont remember a thing. My wife wants to leave because of this. I was drunk, I kissed another guy and I'm so ashamed. I really love my 10 Do's And Don't's Of Dating Multiple People | Thought Catalog Alcohol was a factor, but all it did was bring to the surface the feelings that were already there. Well you need to figure that out and fast. True mistakes get owned and rectified. Like stateside, maybe southern California or San Diego? View related questions: But there's a psychological ingredient missing as naturally affects the optimum biological conditions Soulmate I guess as long as you stay at this site I'll find all of you. 507 views, 8 likes, 5 loves, 10 comments, 6 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Scrittori a domicilio: Mattia Insolia, Cieli in fiamme (Mondadori) con. I have to admit that by kissing this guy whom I liked, I did cheat on my husband. Then he kissed me, and I kissed him back. Kissing that that guy confirmed it. reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): A If I ws on ur place I would never have told him because he loves me so much and respect me so much and really trust me like anything and if you are guilty and try to relieve ur guilt by telling him still doesn't prove to be beneficial for you and other than that it creates a doubt in his heart that would be very mych lowering The respect he has in his heart for you. Why stab your partner in the heart, just to see if the relationship will still survive? At least I understood why our marriage failed and no further closure was needed. You can keep quiet and resolve never to do this again. She emailed him out of the Blue, and he proudly showed me both her smarmy email and his polite yet nonetheless "on yer bike!" 5. One way to get over the guilt would be to prove to yourself that it will never happen again. It was the most thrilling feeling I ever had watching my wife kiss and make out with another guy. Kissed someone on vakation while drunk, cheating or not? When I woke up yesterday I still felt drunk but the reality of what happened hit me like a tonne of bricks.

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